Nicki Clyne and the women of DOS had many opportunities to lie and sell out their friends for cash and prizes when the media, the state, and the mob turned on their mentor, and in some cases, lover, Keith Ranieri. Many of the out-of-work actors in NVIXM and DOS claimed they were victims quite dramatically in the HBO special, and some even received book deals.
The typecast of men as perpetrators and women as powerless victims drives much of my writing. I believe women are very much pressured to accept that role or face severe social consequences. In times of mass hysteria, the legal consequences for refusing victimhood can destroy women’s lives.
Yet even under the real threat of Federal prosecution, Nicki and other members of their “sorority” still refuse to claim victimhood and even dare to suggest that some of their former “sisters” may be misrepresenting the truth to keep their places on the talk show circuit.
Here are some examples of the type of things members of the DOS sorority believe and are expected to agree…
Dossier Project 10-point Manifest
1. We believe in women’s agency: that women have as much free will and responsibility as men, and possess the equal right to experience the effects of their choices.
2. We believe in accountability and compassion, irrespective of gender, race, or social class.
3. We believe all people have the right to make bold commitments and to accept the constraints and consequences of their commitments.
4. We believe that true freedom is beyond the body and achieved through a commitment to one’s own morality and guiding principles.
5. We believe that truth should never be sacrificed to gain approval or conform to the conventions of society.
6. We believe in women’s empowerment through personal responsibility and self-reliance, and that victim mentality leads to self-imprisonment and the infantilization of women.
7. We believe strength of character is built through acts of discipline, self-restraint, introspection, compassion, and care.
8. We believe in honoring each person’s humanity over appearance, behavior, beliefs, or perceived differences.
9. We believe civil discourse that challenges societal taboos is necessary for progress and evolving from antiquated, superstitious, and prejudicial beliefs.
10. We believe that a network of strong, successful, and trustworthy women will inevitably lead to a more ethical and loving world.
After watching the three-minute edit from Nicki’s two-hour Dateline NBC interview (link) or listening to the spooky music from “The Vow”, it’s obvious that these women are in a cult, and clearly not capable of thinking for themselves. Even though as you can see, thinking for themselves is the exact premise they came together to uphold in their manifesto. I mean, they have a manifesto – clearly a cult.
But, the ideas in their manifesto are actually the secret beliefs of millions of women worldwide, who are often too afraid to speak them or reinforce them, lest they be subject to the mob.
If you embrace these principles, have you experienced times when others pressured, punished or silenced you for them?
Amber Heard has been offered $33K per speaking engagement as a high profile “survivor” of domestic violence. That’s a lot of money for a victim role.
She was offered an awful lot of attention in the highly competitive Hollywood Press, while wearing makeup to show off the “bruises” she “received” as part of her “one sided violent relationship” with the very attractive Johnny Depp.
Women and men alike respond to this narrative and solving and speaking out against domestic violence against women is a top priority. Women, of course, are terrified that other women are trapped in such situations.
Most men, by contrast, don’t give a shit that Johnny Depp was falsely accused, but millions and millions of men worldwide are glad that Johnny Depp is defending his reputation in court. Most men don’t have the resources or reputation to defend themselves against these allegations, and instead, end up begrudgingly accepting their fate as perpetrators of harm, even when they were actually the victim.
Johnny Depp is arguably the sexiest man alive, or at least he was.
He’s rich, famous, multi-talented, and a great actor.
Amber Heard is literally caught on tape saying Johnny Depp couldn’t act his way out of a false allegation.
Amber Heard seemed pretty confident playing the victim.
Johnny Depp is THE Modern Sex Pirate Archetype.
Amber Heard seemed pretty confident no one would believe Johnny Depp was a victim.
Johnny Depp is recognized as a competent, if not a great actor. Amber Heard, not so much.
Amber Heard knows some things about human perception we’re not supposed to talk about.
A mob of women whose sexual assaults or domestic violence were unsuccessfully disputed have taken to social media to attack Amber Heard with the claim Amber Heard is a Liar Who Hurts Survivors.
When I announced on Twitter I was writing an article defending Amber Heard’s behavior as commonplace, I became the immediate target of online outrage. I was able to trigger this moral outrage repeatedly for a couple of days. Then, I posted this..
For my article, I’m wondering if anyone tweeting “Amber Heard is a Liar”, or “Amber Heard Hurts Survivors”, with “Survivor” in their bio would share the contact info of their abuser for my article to see if he disputes the allegation.
I got silence. I looked, and dozens and dozens of accounts who’d been volleying back and forth had suddenly blocked me.
Most disputed assault and sexual assault cases are not reported to police – they’re reported to friends, family, employers, educators, and other men, for extra-judiciary punishment.
People don’t like to talk about it, and most people don’t ever want anyone else talking about it. Reputation destruction is very common, well understood, and yet an under-discussed female aggression and revenge tactic.
Not many women can even predict the amount of stress that Hollywood women are under in such a highly competitive environment. Unfortunately, many women in California, and many states across the nation, don’t have adequate treatment and services for their type of aggression.
This is because nearly all aggression treatment and training is targeted toward men and male patterned aggression. Female aggression is taboo, not openly discussed, and typically has other women as the most common targets.
Very few women understand how stressful it would be to be Mrs. Johnny Depp, but as a high quality man, I’m sure he wouldn’t want his ex wife to be targeted with the hate Amber Heard has received for this very common, yet little discussed pattern of behavior of generating disputed assault allegations.
Most humans have an instinctive moral reaction to hearing about false accusations. They make the non-falsifiable claim that false accusations are relatively rare. The most common non-falsifiable statements are “less than 2% of accusations are false”. How would you measure this? Also what percentage of false accusations are acceptable? The moralization of this question digs deep at the precarious status and value of men and the vigorously defended typecast of women as helpless victims.
Publicly disputed allegations are rare, and I would like to thank Mr. Depp for bringing this important topic to everyone’s attention.
